This is the stuff that no one really understands. The day to day. The grind. The SCREAMING (from him, though sometimes I’m ashamed to admit, I scream too). The daily fights about food. The wheeling and dealing to accomplish just about anything. The screaming when the bus comes earlier than expected, or it’s raining, or a container is too hard to open. The screaming. The immediate frustration. The bossiness that has emerged. Where did that come from? When is okay to order your mother to bring you a napkin because you drooled on yourself? To demand that your TV show be paused? To say you will “be nicer now” after screaming and being told to go to time out? Another newly emerged: blowing and thus spitting when angry.
That just happened and I did something I never do. I made him go to his room. I had to carry him there while he thrashed and screamed. He is there now. He is screaming. He is throwing his books around the room and calling for me. “Mommy, mommy, mommy!! Get up here NOW!!!”
The first week of kindergarten is done. Whew. Lots of changes. A new bus stop, a new bus driver + aide, new route, new school, new classmates, new room, new teachers, new everything… And even through all these changes good reports from the spec ed teacher in his communication book every day. He is transitioning well, playing with classmates, being flexible, playing on the playground (weather permitting), and is listening and following directions.
I know he is adjusting. I know all these changes are very hard for him and it sounds as if he is keeping it together at school only to fall apart at home. And really I would rather have that. I would rather he be able to control himself while at school. I want him to learn, to make friends, to feel good while there. I know all this but my patience is wearing thin because when he gets home from school he falls apart.
The boy has an angel face and can scream like a banshee. He is now asking to “come out please? I’m all done in here” so I’d better go and have one of our chats about being nice, using a nice voice and nice words. It seems that we’ve had this same chat every afternoon this week and it hasn’t done any good.
Anyone know where I can purchase some more patience? Mine expired. Yesterday.